We Remember!

 

After weeks of planning and nearly $1,500.00, Steven's Memorial Celebration was an absolute success! Going into the idea of "celebrating Steven's life" was tough, but it had to be done. I know many still have not come to terms with the ugly truth that he's gone and for this reason we expected that his birthday would be devastating. When one of Steven's family member's said to me, "Steven's Birthday is coming up." I knew that I had to throw him an amazing party and I had to make sure the tears were kept at a minimum. He loved to be with his family and friends, he loved to be outdoors, and he loved to eat - so that's were I started planning.



Happy Birthday, Daddy!

I rented a bounce house for the children, made plans for my Dad to man the grill, and his family helped to make the potatoes, baked beans, hot dog chili, and macaroni salad. My mom ordered a beautiful cake and his friends brought the beer! After dinner, everyone was given a balloon and permanent markers were passed around. Some of us told Steven happy birthday, some of us told him we missed him, and some of his buddies drew pictures (though I wont go into detail on that). When all were finished, we sent the balloons to Heaven. It was a beautiful sight and I would imagine that everyone who saw it experienced a mix of emotions. Releasing the balloons was the hardest part of the day, for me. Andrew and I said, "We love you, Daddy" and the words burned straight through my soul. It's strange how one minute I can be strong, happy, and full of life, but with 3 words that can all change and suddenly I've never felt more fragile.

Thank God for Steven's friends though, they must have noticed the tension and next think I know they are shooting rifles and everyone is gathered around watching. As it started to get dark, the boys started a bonfire and the drinking began. Everyone who came, left with a t-shirt and a key chain that said, "In Loving Memory of Steven O'Dell" with his picture.


Steven's amazing friends! And even more amazing wife...

I think if Steven could have seen us, he would have been proud! And if he could have been there, he would have had a blast! I'm very thankful that I planned the party and that everyone attended despite thier anxiety about it. It was nice to have everyone together and even nicer to see so many smiles.

Money well spent. Time well wasted. Memories worth making!